Posted by Lovely Mehrotra | On 27 July,2015 | In Relationships
The thought of talking to a girl for the first time and kick starting a conversation often leave boys nervous.
No one wants to create a bad first impression and lose out on that
pretty girl you would like to know more about. Also, there are few
points a guy needs to keep in mind when you are approaching a girl on a
matrimonial site whose profile you like.
Questions like, how to tell a girl that you like her profile and
would like to take the conversation further; or how to sound genuine and
create a good first impression when approaching someone for matrimony;
are quite common.
Here we tell you some of the easy tips that will help you start a
conversation and take it to another level with your favourite match on
SimplyMarry.com.
1) Review the profile of the girl carefully before sending a message
Approaching a girl generally and approaching someone for marriage are
two different things. When you are on a life partner search, casually
contacting any random girl just because you like her picture might not
be a wise idea. Your first step before kick starting a conversation
should be to know her better. So, go through her profile carefully and
if you like it send her a message using our FREE messaging service.
2) Your first message can make or break your chance of getting a reply from her
In online matrimony, your first message is what will create or spoil
your image in the eyes of your prospective match. Therefore, it is very
important to choose your words intelligently, without sounding creepy or
boring at the same time. Words like
‘hot’ and
‘sexy’ are a big No-No. Also, never write
“I want to marry you”
in your first message. No girl would entertain your message if you
write that. You message should tell her that you like her profile and
you are seriously interested to know more about her.
3) No personal question should be asked in your first message
One thing where people seriously go wrong when searching a life
partner on a matrimonial site is when they start asking “personal”
questions too early. I’m not asking you to marry anyone without knowing
every possible detail about them, all I’m saying is there’s always a
right time of asking that extra-personal question which the other person
might not be comfortable answering at the first go. Questions like –
How many boyfriends have you had in the past? Do you go out clubbing at night? Do you smoke? Do you drink? You ask these questions in your first message and then don’t expect any reply from anyone, for sure.
4) Right way of drafting a decent first message
As I mentioned earlier, writing the first message can be a tricky
task, therefore to help you out we give you a step-by-step guide of
writing that perfect first message when approaching a girl on
SimplyMarry.com.
a) Start by greeting the other person
Always start your message with a
‘Hi’ or
‘Hello’. An abrupt start without any greetings might look rude.
b) Strike a balance between being formal and informal
When drafting your first message you need to strike the perfect
balance between being formal and informal. Remember, you are not writing
an official message/mail, therefore please do not refer the girl with
‘Ma’am’ or
‘Madam’. No one would want to be addressed like that from her prospective match. Also referring her
‘Sweety’, ‘Diva’ or
‘Beautiful’ would make you appear cheesy and she might block you too.
The correct approach is addressing the person with their first name.
c) Make sure you give a nice, decent compliment, supported with a fact
A nice compliment, given in a right way is always appreciated by
girls. But always make sure to support your compliment with a genuine
fact to appear more believable.
For example:
“I went through your profile and I like your passion for your work. I would like to know more about you.”
OR
“I went through your profile and
noticed your love for cooking in your free time. I feel to be able to
strike a balance between your professional and personal life is really
appreciable. I like your profile and would like to take the conversation
further with you.”
d) Also tell her what kind of partner are you looking at
To create an impression of a sensible guy make sure to tell her what
are the some of the important point you are looking at in your life
partner and why you think she fits in that frame.
Remember to highlight the qualities of your preferred partner, rather then going gaga about her.
For example:
“I have always wanted to marry a
girl who is passionate about her job and I went through your profile and
saw how focused you are with the job at hand. I really appreciate that
and would like to know more about you.”
e) Don’t forget to share your contact details
At the end, don’t forget to share your contact details – phone number
and email id – so that if the girl likes your profile, she can easily
contact you.
Sample Message – 1
Hi Anita,
I went through your profile and noticed your love for cooking in your
free time. I feel to be able to strike a balance between your
professional and personal life is really appreciable. I like your
profile and would like to take the conversation further with you.
You can contact me at 9933XXXXXX or drop a mail at XXXX@gmail.com.
Will look forward to your reply.
Manoj Singh
Sample Message – 2
Hello Vidya,
My name is Vikas and I work in a software company. I came across your
profile and saw that we share same hobbies. I have always wanted a
partner with whom I can share my areas of interest. I would like to talk
to you. Please contact me if you too like my profile.
Mobile: 9933XXXXXX
Email id: XXXX@gmail.com
Looking forward to a positive reply.
Vikas.
Follow our step-by-step guide to improve your chances of getting more
replies from prospective partners to finally meet your someone special.
Also, make sure your own profile is 100% complete before you begin your
life partner search. ALL THE BEST!
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